让我们彼此听见 - 青少年与父母沟通座谈之二
这个12月的假期里，心空间邀请了一位16岁的青少年和她的母亲来参加“让我们彼此听见” 的座谈之二。【第一次座谈录音的YouTube链接： https://youtu.be/zdb7ZmxkY_I】
【本次活动受非暴力沟通培训师 John Kinyon's Across The Aisle project 启迪，在此表达诚挚的感恩。】
本次报名为观众旁听。如果您有兴趣报名参加直接对话，请联系Julia 微信: juliashen_TO
My name is Julia Shen and I’m a communication trainer. I'm hosting a Zoom meeting for parents to communicate with their teens.
The main reason that I host this event is, I truly believe that everyone deserves to be heard, be seen and be understood.
Is there anything you want your parents to understand, but you don’t feel they get it yet? And/or, is there anything you want to share, so that other parents can learn to improve the relationship with their children?
Please consider my invitation to come to the “Let’s hear each other” event and speak up for yourself.
You and one of your parents, (together with other two pairs of parent & teen) will have conversations, in front of an audience of other parents (who are longing to learn from you), and a facilitator (which is myself).
When it’s time for you and your parent to talk, I invite either of you to speak, one at a time, while everyone else listens. When it is the next person’s turn to speak, this next person will show hearing and understanding of what the previous speaker just said, even when there is strong disagreement, by reflecting back what they heard that person say, until that person says they feel heard.
Please keep in mind, you do not need to agree to what your parent said. The ask is that everyone reflects back what the other person just said, even if you don't agree (I'll demenstrate what "reflect" means). It's important to keep in mind that, reflecting what others say does NOT mean that we agree (or disagree) with their opinion. Also note that you don’t have to remember everything they said. Reflecting any point you pick up from them would be great.
I as the facilitator, will do my best to model and demonstrate empathic listening (which is separate from agreement or disagreement) for what people are saying.
The Goal of this event is not to resolve any specific issue. Instead, is
- To create a safe space for people with different opinions to feel heard, understood and valued by each other
- To connect with our common humanity underlying our differences
- To practice together how we can disagree with empathy and compassion, and work together to explore ideas and solutions
- To show what’s possible when we listen to each other and find our common humanity
Every voice matters. I look forward to hearing from you.